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Spotlight on TransNetwork: Supporting St. Pete’s Only Trans-Run 501c3
If you’ve been following our recent series on allyship, you’ve probably noticed a recurring theme: real support for the trans community goes way beyond changing a profile picture or using the right hashtags. While those things are a nice starting point, they don't...
The 3 Mistakes Cis Allies Make When Entering Trans Spaces (And How to Do Better)
Let’s be real for a second: showing up as an ally can be nerve-wracking. You want to do the right thing, you want to show your support, and you definitely don’t want to be "that person" who accidentally says something that sucks the air out of the room. As a...
“Supporting Trans Community” Isn’t a Hashtag: 7 Concrete Actions Allies Can Take in Florida Right Now
Let’s be real for a second: being an ally in Florida right now feels a bit like trying to hold an umbrella in a hurricane. Between the legislative "dumpster fires" at the state level and the constant headlines targeting our community, it’s easy to feel...
What Happens in a Therapy Session When You’re Not in Crisis? A Peek Behind the Curtain
Welcome to the grand finale of our 5-part series! All week, we’ve been tackling the biggest myth in mental health: the idea that you have to be "falling apart" to walk through our door (or log onto our Zoom). If you’ve missed the previous days, here’s the...
“But I’m Not That Bad” : Why We Minimize Our Own Pain (And How to Stop)
If I had a nickel for every time a client sat on my couch: or joined a telehealth session from their car: and started with the phrase, “I mean, I know some people have it way worse, but…” I’d probably be writing this blog post from a private island in the Keys. But...
Maintenance, Not Repair: Why Ongoing Therapy Is Like Going to the Gym for Your Brain
Welcome to Wednesday! You’ve officially made it to the hump of our five-part series on why therapy isn’t just a "break glass in case of emergency" situation. If you’re just joining us, we’re spending the week debunking the myth that you have to be in a...
The 5 Signs You’re Ready for Therapy (Even If Nothing’s “Wrong”)
Welcome to Part 2 of our week-long series: "Therapy isn't just for when there’s a crisis." Yesterday, we talked about the myth of the "rock bottom." Today, I want to get real with you. I’m Tristan Byrnes, and as a trans-identified therapist,...
You Don’t Have to Be in Crisis to Deserve Therapy
There’s a specific kind of mental math we do in the LGBTQ+ community. We look at our lives, maybe we’re holding down a job, our relationships are mostly fine, and we haven’t had a full-blown meltdown in at least three weeks, and we think, "I’m okay. I don't...
Support Without Spotlight: The Ally’s Practical Guide to Getting Out of the Way
Welcome back to the final installment of our series on authentic allyship. If you’ve been following along, we’ve already tackled the big-picture mindset of centering others, not yourself, and cleared up why distinctions like cross-dressing vs. being trans matter. Now,...