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If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you’re the "reliable" one. You’re the person who never misses a deadline, whose house is (mostly) tidy, and who everyone assumes has their life completely together. You might even feel a little bit like a fraud...

If you’ve been thinking about an adult ADHD diagnosis, you’re not alone—especially among neurodivergent adults who grew up internalizing ADHD stigma and learning to explain real struggles with one brutal word: “lazy.” If I had a nickel for every time a client sat...

If you’re here because you’re exploring an adult ADHD diagnosis and trying to understand inattentive ADHD vs hyperactive traits, you’re in the right place. If you’ve spent any time on the internet lately, you’ve probably seen the memes. One minute you’re looking up...

If I had a nickel for every time someone told me, "But Tristan, you’re not bouncing off the walls, how can you have ADHD?" I’d probably have enough nickels to buy a very fancy, very unnecessary espresso machine that I’d use twice and then forget to clean for...

We’ve spent the last couple of weeks digging into the heavy stuff: how perfectionism acts as a suit of armor we never asked for, and how the ADHD stigma cycle keeps us running on a hamster wheel of "not enough." If you’ve been following along, you’re...

If you’ve spent most of your life feeling like you’re running a marathon in combat boots while everyone else is wearing high-end sneakers, you probably know the phrase "just try harder" all too well. It’s the ultimate neurodivergent "check engine"...

If you’ve ever stayed up until 3:00 AM obsessing over the font choice in a slide deck, or felt your heart drop into your stomach because you made a minor social faux pas, you know the vibe. It’s that relentless, buzzing voice in the back of your head that says,...

Can we all just take a collective, deep, rib-expanding breath for a second? If you’re anything like me: and the rest of the crew here at Byrnes Counseling Group: your shoulders have probably been living somewhere up near your earlobes for the last couple of months....

If you’ve ever walked into a room, a grocery store, a coffee shop, or heaven forbid, a public restroom, and felt like you were walking onto a stage where you hadn't memorized the script, you know the feeling. It’s that prickle on the back of your neck. It’s the...